Everyone has what it takes to live their life. This need must be met. The needs of each individual human being are different. These needs can also be differentiated by age and gender. There will be problems or problems will arise if the needs of each individual are not met. In the world of marriage, it also has needs that must be fulfilled in order for the marriage to go well. Likewise between husband and wife. So what are the needs of husband and wife in the world of Christian marriage?
1. Physical Needs
This is the first need that must be met in the world of marriage. This is a physical need, where the man as the husband has the responsibility to meet the needs of his wife physically. It is better if these needs are prepared in advance before entering the world of marriage, at least a conscious attitude is needed, even if the physical needs in the world of marriage are very important. This preparation will avoid excessive worry. Concerning physical needs, the need for clothing, food, shelter. The key to fulfilling this need is to work hard, not only for the husband as the backbone of the family, but also for the wife as a helper.
2. Psychological Needs
In this case also, both husband and wife must have their needs met. The phenomenon that is seen these days is that this need is not given enough attention, causing problems of marital harmony. There are many marriages that underestimate this, where at the time of dating this need is met even more by paying attention to each other, but different at the time after marriage, this need is getting less attention or even forgotten. If not fulfilled, it will usually lead to an affair, in which the wife or husband in this case seeks attention outside the home or from another partner. Thus, the main characteristic of this need is attention from husband to wife or from wife to husband, as well as in the relationship between parents and children.
3. Social Needs
In meeting social needs there is also an element of attention. Where as husband and wife who have married or form their own family, they must channel these social needs to their respective extended families. Where the husband must give not only attention but also financial form to the wife's extended family, and vice versa where the wife must meet the social needs of the husband. So that both of them get a sense of mutual respect not only as husband and wife, but also as a large family.
4. Spiritual Needs
Spiritual needs are needs that are closely related to the relationship between the creator and humans as their creation. Actually spiritual needs are very sensitive. Despite the fact that we often find that this need is often overlooked. This attitude of indifference to spiritual needs creates problems that will lead to other problems. Because this need is directly related to God, even though they have become husband and wife, this need is still personal or personal. As a couple, it can only encourage each person to strive for their respective spiritual needs. If, you already have children, it should be introduced from an early age on how to meet this spiritual need. Indeed, in reality this need is not easy to fulfill, thus cooperation for mutual support between husband and wife is even more required.
These four kinds of needs must be met in a balanced manner. One need should not be given more attention or be more fulfilled than the other needs, or only part of the needs that are paid attention to, not completely. These are the four basic necessities of a Christian marriage. GBU
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