In married life, parents-in-law are parents who are sometimes burdened with internal problems in their child's family. Even though their own children can solve these internal problems, without the intervention of parents-in-law or parents. It is in this case that problems with in-laws are a universal problem. The impact of this problem resulted in disharmony in the relationship between husband and wife. This is a fact that we find in every married couple. It turns out that whether the in-laws will become friends or enemies is our choice. One of the causes that often arise is the result of a married couple having to stay with their parents or in-laws. At first it may be good enough, but over time it will begin to feel that the mother or father-in-law is interfering with the internal affairs of their child's family, even starting to take over decisions. Another consequence is that the wife will not develop into a good housewife, likewise the husband will not develop as a good family head.
The principle that can be taken is that the in-laws can give advice to the son-in-law. The advice must be done in a very good and harmonious way, not too quick to speak. And then give the son-in-law to make decisions, not the in-laws who make decisions.
Some attitudes that can be taken in maintaining a harmonious relationship with in-laws, namely first by taking a positive attitude and an optimistic viewpoint, pretending that there is no problem with the in-laws are inappropriate actions. Second, is learning to understand the in-laws' personality. A wise son-in-law learns to humble himself and respect his in-laws to be able to think of him as his own parent. Therefore, son-in-law does not need to make a difference with other in-laws. Son-in-law must learn to accept the existence of his in-laws. Because in-laws are not always enemies, but in-laws can also be good and wise friends or friends.
For me personally, this may be something that should be anticipated from now on, namely by preparing myself and my partner to be ready to be independent apart from their parents or in-laws. In this case, before entering into marriage, I must first be able to work to make ends meet, while continuing to do so. Or when dating, both work with each other and continue to buy or pay in installments on a private house.
As a man, I must first understand the concept of God's Word about how the concept of marriage is, which is as in Genesis 2:24, "Therefore a man will leave his father and mother and unite with his wife, so that the two of them will become one flesh" . Leaving their parents means they become a new family.
The Bible also gives examples of the relationship between parents and their married children or parents and their son-in-law, one of which is in Genesis 26: 34-35, where Esau was forty years old, he took Judith, the son of Beeri the Hittite, and Basmat, the son of Elon. Het being his wife. The two women caused heartbreak to Isaac and to Rebekah.
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